How Taking Control of My Mind Changed My Life

I’ve been so calm during the chaos. And honestly? I’m loving it. I’m so grateful for this shift. I don’t know how to describe it—contentment, balance, growth? Whatever it is, I’m here for it.

For the first time, I feel like I’m really learning how to navigate this experience we call life.

It used to be so hard for me to quiet the noise. That constant, pounding voice in the back of my mind—always commenting, always criticizing—has finally learned to quiet down.

And it all started with one powerful shift:

👉 I learned to respond rather than react.

That changed everything for me.

Taking Control of My Mind

The first step? Awareness.

I started noticing every little comment, doubt, and self-criticism running through my mind. If you’re anything like me, your brain never stops—past memories, future scenarios, random conversations that never even happened.

My mind was constantly on, and much of it was negative.

The Negative Thought Cycle

I realized I was tearing myself down over nothing.

Example:
“You said ‘you too’ instead of ‘thank you’—haha, stupid.”

How I shifted it:

✔ Step 1: Awareness — I caught the thought in real-time.
✔ Step 2: Interrupting the loop — I said: “Shut up.”
✔ Step 3: Replacing the script — I affirmed my truth.

At first, it felt like a mental tug-of-war. I had to challenge my brain all day long. But I knew one thing:

👉 I couldn’t build a life I loved while feeding thoughts that told me I wasn’t enough.

The mind believes what it hears most often. So if I wanted different results, I had to rewrite the message.

Shifting the Narrative

Eventually, I realized yelling “STFU” at myself wasn’t the most sustainable approach. So I softened it.

Instead of attacking the thought, I calmly rejected it:

“No—that’s not true.”
“No—that’s not going to happen.”
“No—that’s not who I am.”

Then I offered myself truth:

✔ I am capable.
✔ I am smart.
✔ I am creative.
✔ I am becoming the version of myself I admire.
✔ I am enough, right now.

Little by little, it worked.

✔ I stopped entertaining the voice of fear.
✔ I stopped feeding thoughts that didn’t serve me.
✔ I chose to believe in myself—mentally, emotionally, spiritually.

👉 At the end of the day, you live with your thoughts. So why not make them kind?

Shift Your Mindset, Shift Your Life

Something I live by now:

👉 If it’s not a problem, don’t make it one.

Stop bracing for disaster. You’re literally rehearsing pain that hasn’t happened. Instead:

✔ Expect the best.
✔ Accept what comes.
✔ Respond with grace.
✔ Let go of what doesn’t belong.

You’re not a psychic. So if you’re going to create scenarios in your head—make them beautiful.

Your Thoughts Shape Your Reality

Remember the experiment with plants and kind words? They thrived when spoken to with love.

We work the same way.

Words matter.

What you tell yourself matters.

The stories you repeat become the life you live. So:

Hype yourself like you do your best friend.
Believe in your magic, even when it’s quiet.
Give yourself the love you’ve been waiting for.

Because once you trust yourself, the hard moments feel less heavy. They become:

✔ A lesson
✔ A redirect
✔ A step forward

Final Thoughts

You don’t need all the answers. You need belief.

That belief will carry you.

That belief will build the life you dream of.

And on the hard days? Come back to your breath.

🌬 In through your nose. Out through your mouth.
🌬 Again and again until the only sound is your breath.

Then remind yourself:

💡 You got you. And that’s more than enough.

Drop into stillness. Close your eyes. Let this question rise:

What truth are you ready to believe about yourself today?
Hold it like a promise.

💬 What’s one thought you’re choosing to rewrite this week?
Share it in the comments—or write it somewhere sacred.
Your mind is listening.