Aligning With Your Highest Self: Becoming the Reality You Desire

In my journey of self-discovery and personal evolution, I often found myself asking: how?

How do I align mentally, emotionally, and spiritually with the version of me I want to become? How do I live the reality I dream of, not just imagine it? I kept encountering this phrase: “You must embody what you desire, because you reflect from within.”

I thought I understood it.

If I wanted to live in abundance, I believed I needed to work hard—reflecting that same effort outwardly. If I desired love, I thought I had to give it freely to others. But over time, I realized this understanding was incomplete. I wasn’t becoming what I wanted—I was projecting it. And projection isn’t embodiment.

Let me explain.

Abundance Starts From Within

If you want to feel abundant, you must first give yourself the space and permission to be abundant. That means filling your own cup—not burning yourself out in the name of productivity or people-pleasing.

Let’s say your schedule is packed. You believe your effort should translate into reward—but you’re not receiving abundance. Why? Because none of your tasks feed your soul.

Are you doing what excites you? What lights you up? If not, you’re depleting yourself. And how can you create overflow when you’re constantly running on empty?

Embodying Love by Loving Yourself

Let’s talk about love. If you desire a relationship rooted in trust and understanding, the path isn’t to give everyone around you unconditional love in hopes of it being returned. It’s to pour that love into yourself first.

Trust yourself. Respect your own boundaries.

When you do, others learn how to love and respect you by witnessing the way you love and respect yourself.

You Attract What You Already Are

Whatever you want from the outside world, give it to yourself first. Your reality doesn’t shape you—you shape it.

You cannot control external circumstances. But you can control how you treat yourself.

You are abundant because you feed your soul with abundance.
You are loved because you love yourself.
The moment you compromise your values, you compromise your experience.

Attachment is fear dressed as desire. You don’t need to control outcomes—you need to take aligned action. So act in your own best interest.

Because when you do, the world meets you at your level.

✨ Light a candle. Sit with your heart. Ask yourself: “Where am I seeking externally what I haven’t yet given myself?” Let your answer guide your next decision.